Trust is one of the most important elements in a relationship. But we can sometimes be so trusting that we become complacent.
This can occur especially in an established relationship. We take our partner for granted. They become so much a part of our lives that we ignore them. We drift along in our lives together, not noticing that things have become dull and predictable.
This can be a dangerous time for a relationship. Sooner or later one partner will become restless and start looking around to find that excitement again. And what is more exciting than something illicit, secret, forbidden.
Just as with Adam and Eve, the human tendency to yearn for what we cannot have is still around. The current relationship has become stale, all too familiar. The forbidden, the unfamiliar suddenly hold a great attraction, seeming to offer the elusive key to happiness.
I am sure that you have known couples who have split up due to infidelity. The wronged partner will often say that they had no idea that their partner was having an affair. The news comes as a total shock. The trust in the relationship has been broken.
How does this happen? Very easily, is the answer, if the couple has slipped into this pattern of complacency. Each has been drifting along, perhaps quite happily, without really noticing the other. When one party wakes up to find that the relationship is way off course, the distance between them can seem too great to cross. On the surface, the pretence of a relationship continues but the unhappy partner goes elsewhere to seek emotional and then sexual comfort.
Having an affair does not always indicate that the unfaithful partner wants the relationship to end. But the trouble is that it is difficult for anyone to come to terms with the infidelity of a partner. The bonds of love and trust, once broken, take a long time to heal. Often a scar remains.
So if you are unhappy in your life together, turn first of all to your partner. Tell your partner that you are unhappy with the way things are. Keep the trust in your relationship intact. Don’t jeopardize the future of your relationship by being unfaithful. Together you can get things back on track. Check out Rekindle the Spark and see how this can be achieved. Trust me, it will work.